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TRYING TO BE IMPERFECT #4
WHACK! WHACK! WHACK!
In his biography, The Education of a Golfer, "Slammin'"
Sam Snead reveals some of the inside scoop regarding human pressure and
the typical weekend athlete's inability to deal with it. He has a chapter
- which I hope you'll ignore - on the psychology of golf-course gambling.
A lot of players, I guess, have $50 riding on the game . . . or even a
whole lot more sometimes, if you're going one-on-one with Michael Jordan.
Sometimes there can be money in play on each hole, each drive, who's closest
to the pin, everything.
And most players, Snead writes, just can't handle the pressure of making
a hard shot if there's a pile of money riding on it. This book was written
a good 40 or so years ago, and there were "sharks" and hustlers
out there even in that era, who would play a round of golf with you -
and then, right when you had the toughest putt of the day to make, would
say: "I'll bet you a C-note you take three to get down."
The irony would be this. With the money on the line, most players would
actually do worse . . . because of the extra pressure. One player boasted
to a local gambler: "Man, I'm playing hot right now. I haven't had
a double bogey in something like three weeks." A double bogey being
a hole where you blow it and get two over par. And the gambler said to
him: "I'll bet you fifty you have one today." What happened?
The player had two of them - because of the power of suggestion, and also
because money was riding on the outcome. He folded under the pressure.
Have you ever noticed that it's hardest to be perfect when you have to
be? When there's no pressure, it's easy to sink a putt or make a free
throw. But when it really counts, when the chips are on the line, we mess
up.
And friend, this is a biblical reality. The Bible tells us: "Be ye
perfect." But we can't BE perfect. And the very fact of the Bible
telling us, "Be ye perfect," almost is a predictor that we WON'T
be, that we'll do worse. We end up missing even more.
Philip Yancey has a book out entitled What's So Amazing About Grace? And
he comments about this very phenomenon. Writing about perfection and legalism,
he observes:
"Legalism fails miserably at the one thing it is
supposed to do: encourage obedience. In a strange twist, a system of strict
laws actually puts new ideas of lawbreaking in a person's mind."
Then he adds this disturbing P.S.: "Some surveys show that people
raised in teetotaling denominations are three times more likely to become
alcoholics."
Isn't that interesting? Do yourself a favor sometime this week, and simply
sit down and read all of Romans chapter 7. Paul writes about this very
phenomenon: how legalism, or our attempts to try to be perfect through
our OWN law-keeping, end up causing us to sin even more. Here's just one
verse, as freshened up for today in Eugene Peterson's paraphrase, The
Message:
"The very command that was supposed to guide me
into life," Paul confesses, "was cleverly used to trip me up,
throwing me headlong."
I suppose for most of us, this goes back from the sand
trap on the golf course to the sand box in nursery school. As soon as
Teacher says "DON'T," we DO. When the sign says STOP, we GO.
Don't smoke - we smoke. If rules are in place, we want to break them.
And if a lot is riding on our being good, we just naturally, under that
pressure, do bad. We mess up. It's true in golf, and it's true in life.
Yancey gives us a second illustration, and maybe you can relate more to
this object lesson:
"The church, says Robert Farrar Capon, 'has spent
so much time inculcating in us the fear of making mistakes that she has
made us like ill-taught piano students: we play our songs, but we never
really hear them because our main concern is not to make music but to
avoid some flub that will get us in dutch.'"
Do you recall the infamous ruler poised over your knuckles?
And if you hit a D instead of middle C, whack! If you came in on beat
four instead of three, whack! If your arpeggio was awkward or your pianissimo
was paltry, whack! And before too long, you were so jumpy that your classical
recital sounded like bad ragtime: whack! whackwhackwhack! whack! Perfectionism
was making you the most imperfect piano pupil in Peoria.
And you know, friend, this is not how it should be in the Christian life.
Yes, the Bible says, "Be ye perfect." But it also talks about
peace and joy and calm. "My yoke is EASY," the gentle Jesus
tells us, "and My burden is light." The Christian faith isn't
supposed to be a system of fear, of rules and rulers and whackwhackwhack!
Here's Philip Yancey again:
"As Paul wrote to the legalists of his day, 'For
the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness,
peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.'"
Well, it comes down to this question: how can we follow all that the Bible
says about "be ye perfect" and still have joy? How can we give
piano recitals without worrying about the ruler?
We've been emphasizing three great Bible truths in this radio series -
and here they are again. First of all, obedience and commandment-keeping
and, yes, even perfection are all GOOD things. The Bible speaks highly
of them. We're invited to seek those goals. We should aim for perfection,
not IMperfection . . . just as when you play the piano. You try to hit
the right notes, don't you? So that's point one.
But secondly, perfection is not the BASIS of our salvation. We don't receive
the kingdom based on how good WE do. The blood of Jesus shed on the cross,
friend - that is ALWAYS the foundation of our salvation, the source of
our hope. His recital performance counts, not ours.
The third reality, then, is this: goodness and perfection - however they
are defined in the Word of God - are things that God Himself gives. HE
leads us to perfection. HE takes us to perfection. In I John 1:9, a verse
every Christian should know by heart, we find, not one, but two unforgettable
promises. "First of all," God says, "if you confess your
sins, I will forgive you. And secondly, I will cleanse you. I will purify
you. I will make you good. I will make you perfect - and by a heavenly
definition of perfection far beyond what you could ever dream."
So in a very exciting way, we simply hand this whole question of perfection
over to Jesus. "Lord, make of me what You will," we say. And
then the amount of perfection, the progress, the pace, the everything
. . . becomes HIS responsibility, not ours. We are now playing in His
orchestra.
This takes me to a final C. S. Lewis quote on this matter, which I think
is the most wonderful truth a Christian can consider. It's in a chapter
entitled "Faith," from his book, Mere Christianity. And he talks
about this very issue of trying to be good. If we have faith in God, and
believe in Calvary, do we then abandon our own efforts to follow the rules
and play the piano well? Here's the quote:
"Handing everything over to Christ does not, of
course, mean that you stop trying. To trust Him means, of course, trying
to do all that He says. There would be no sense in saying you trusted
a person if you would not take his advice. Thus if you have really handed
yourself over to Him, it must follow that you are trying to obey Him."
Now please - listen to this. "But trying in a NEW way, a less worried
way."
And you know, I am so grateful for this concept. Trying in a new way,
a less worried way. Obeying with a new attitude, an attitude of joy, not
jittery-ness. Playing great symphonies for Him with hope and confident
enthusiasm, not white-knuckled fear. And C. S. Lewis finishes with this:
"Not doing these things" - obedience, perfection
- "in order to be saved, but because He has begun to save you already.
Not hoping to get to Heaven as a reward for your actions, but inevitably
wanting to act in a certain way because a first faint gleam of Heaven
is already inside you."
I have a pastor friend, Martin Weber, and we've
enjoyed some dialogue over the years. And he uses this illustration. You're
trying to get to sleep - and if you're not asleep by 11:00 p.m., there's
a $20,000 fine hanging over your head. Twenty thousand bucks! Naturally,
you're so scared about that, you can't sleep a wink. Forget it. But then
a kind person comes along and says, "You know, the $20,000 - don't
worry about it. That part's off. I've taken care of it. Go ahead and get
some rest." Aaaaah . . . what peace! And before you know it, what
are you doing? Friend, you're sleeping like a baby. You're obeying.
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